The raising of Lazarus from the dead, recorded in John 11, is one of the most moving narratives in scripture. The dynamics between Jesus and Martha and Mary are heartrending. When Jesus finally arrives, both women say the same thing: "Lord, if thou hadst been here, my brother had not died." They seem to know that Jesus has been just a couple of miles away for four days, deliberately delaying long after their urgent pleas for help had reached him. Why would He do such a thing?
An Undeniable Sign
Four months later, just before the final week begins, Jesus is again at Lazarus's home. Mary takes a pound of spikenard ointment, "very costly," in an alabaster box, and with it anoints Jesus's tired feet, wiping them with her hair. The picture this creates of one woman's gratitude and love for her Savior is so complete it defies commentary. Jesus found it so as well, and declared that wherever the gospel story was told, her sweet act of worship would be recounted.
What if?
Martha and Mary remind us how easy it is to becoming entangled in a never-ending cycle of regret, asking "What if this or that had been different? What if I could have done this or that better or not made this or that mistake?" Jesus reminds us to "remember Lot's wife," and not look back. So we examined ten ways to put useless regrets behind us and move on. In the Book of Mormon Jacob reminds us that we can only feast of the love of God, "if your minds are firm," implying that a certain mental discipline is required to look forward in faith. (Jacob 3:2)
After class one of the sisters shared a story with me. She told of a friend who lost a 15 year old daughter in a tragic ski accident. To the family's surprise President Monson came, uninvited. to the funeral. Of course he was asked to speak, and said that he had seen the story of the accident in the paper and came to offer words of comfort. He told the family to eliminate two words from their vocabulary: "What if." What magnificent advice from a prophet. One writer said, "Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future." The grace of Christ is there to help us have peace about both the past and future, and joy in the present. As these clever New Yorkers remind us, we just need to remember to ask for that grace on a daily basis, and "look not behind thee."